The limiter is not the number of WFEs, it's the number of site
collections. In an NLB setup, both WFEs are serving the same content
from the same sites, and the indexing is done based on the site/site
collection hierarchy.
No, WSS doesn't have these settings, because they are not required for
indexing local content. MOSS has them mainly because it can access
content sources outside the current environment.
As for installation of multiple WFEs - this is a "farm" configuration in
WSS - see
technet2.microsoft.com/.../36114198-56db
-40f5-820b-d49c5ee7de1a1033.mspx for the detailed install instructions
for WSS. The bottom line is you setup the NLB, then install and
configure the first WFE (creating a farm in the process), then install
and configure the 2nd WFE choosing to connect to the existing farm.
Once this is complete, anything done on either WFE will automatically
propagate to the other, and the NLB address is used to provision the new
site collection(s).