http://portal/SiteDirectory/ which also shares a relationship to http://portal/_layouts/1033/SRMan.aspx

hopefully you didnt delete that one :) this pretty much sums up why, mindsharpblogs.com/.../687.aspx.

to look at user profiles (aka manage  personal site) try this link:
http://portal/_layouts/1033/ProfMngr.aspx?ConsoleView=Active

That works great for sites  that are listed in the site  directory. But not so great for sites that are not listed. The only option that I have found is to query the database.

And if you didn't want to touch the database, it is relatively trivial to write some code to loop through the virtual servers and all of the site  collections that belong to that virtual server.

or just do stsadm -o enumsites ?

Use:
"C:\Program Files\Common Files\Microsoft Shared\web server
extensions\60\BIN\STSADM.exe" -o enumsites -url "http://[portal]"

where [portal] is the actual URL of your portal  and you will see all the
top-level Webs in your portal (including Personal My sites  and Webs in
your managed paths). However, you will have to run additional commands
to see the entire hierarchy.

Use:
"C:\Program Files\Common Files\Microsoft Shared\web server
extensions\60\BIN\STSADM.exe" -o enumsubwebs -url
"http://[portal]/sites/[topWeb]"

where [topWeb] is the top-level Web in your managed path and you will
see all the sub Webs in that site  Collection.